How to Write a Platonic Relationship

So, you want to write a platonic relationship. Where to start? First off, realize that platonic relationships exist in many forms. Understand that a platonic relationship is based on deep respect and care for another person. They can be unbelievably complex, which makes writing them great fun!

Friends or Lovers?

Write a platonic relationship as a non-romantic friendship. Typically, readers expect a man and woman’s friendship to evolve romantically. The romance novel genre exists to fill this role. In reality, some friendships are just friendships. People who share a work space can have lunch and have deep philosophical conversations without physical attraction. Members of clubs or associations can discuss their interests with no romantic overtures. Or think of neighbors who share a love of gardening comparing notes on how best to raise the perfect strawberry. 

What is a Platonic Relationship?

What is it about these friendships that makes them platonic? The deciding factor: a deep and abiding love with no physical attraction. When you write a platonic relationship, characters are there for each other in good times and bad. They are honest, not only when convenient, but when a hard truth is at hand. They enjoy sharing activities, thoughts, and time together. They encourage dreams and calm fears. They push their friend to be their best self. In short, they share a deep love and respect for each other and provide companionship with no ulterior motives. They are the best kind of friend.

Write a Platonic Relationship

Not everyone has experienced the deep connection that comes with a platonic relationship. To avoid misleading your reader, be clear from the start that this will never evolve into a romance. Few things are more irksome than gearing up for a romance only to be let down with a complex platonic relationship instead.

These relationships are richly layered with basic emotions ranging from anger to sadness, contempt to fear, disgust to surprise, as well as happiness. Platonic friends feel safe to expose their vulnerabilities and share their dreams. This opens up a minefield of opportunity for you, the writer. Have fun letting your characters reveal their true selves through their platonic relationships.